This is a personal post about my wedding ring. And out of respect for my husband, he has read this post and has approved it.
On January 25, 2008, my husband and I went out to a fancy dinner at “Bella Notte Ristorante” in Jackson, Michigan. We were in the balcony seating, by ourselves. We loved it up there because they had the walls decorated like it was a terrace in Italy. It’s so pretty and honestly who doesn’t love Italian food!
Nate and I had been talking and it’s so funny because I remember exactly how he proposed ten years ago and two kids less LOL.
We had been talking about our lives together, holding hands across the table when I said something along the lines of “Man, it feels like we’ve been together for forever, and it hasn’t even been a year.” At that moment Nate got down on one knee and said, “Speaking for forever.” He pulled out the engagement ring and asked me to marry him!
Now, my husband isn’t hasty in deciding anything. He spent months and went to about 15 different jewelry stores to pick this ring out.
I was so excited, however, the ring was not what I wanted. I was actually really surprised and a little upset that it was a three-stone. Over the past several months Nate and I had discussed rings and I expressed how much I really wanted a heart diamond. nothing super fancy but I really wanted to be able to display my love for my marriage by having a heart diamond. I didn’t think anything about it until I received the three-stone diamond ring. (There are other personal reasons that this ring was not what I wanted, but I will not go into that.)
I know you are thinking, “How dare Krystal write about how she doesn’t like her ring in a blog post.” But, I have discussed this blog with my husband and he has read it to make sure that he is okay with what I type. And, there is a very good reason for my discussing this topic. It took me four years to go to my husband and tell him how I really felt about the ring. I love my husband, I mean L-O-V-E my husband with every ounce of my being. And I never want to hurt him, and I know as gently as I put it. I did, hurt him.
Fast forward 9 years, and 303 days. In December 2017 when I woke up one morning, I looked at my engagement ring. And one of the smaller diamonds was gone.
My heart was completely broken. I cried. A lot. Here was this item, that I had worn on my finger for almost 10 years. Every single day. And part of it was missing.
Part of me was missing.
We had discussed upgrading my ring after so many years, and I thought I wanted to take the diamonds out of the ring and just rearrange the diamonds and add a heart diamond. But that moment when I had lost a diamond, I realized the importance of this ring.
It’s not the ring, the metal, the jewels, the color, the shape, it’s not about any of that. And here I had spent so many years disliking this thing on my finger because of the way it looked. But here’s the cold hard truth.
This ring has experienced everything I experienced from day one with my husband. Births, deaths, fights, constructions, illnesses, doctor visits, career change, moves, business start-up and so many other moments that have fleeted by without any trace.
But they did leave a trace.
On my heart. And I wear my heart on my left, Ring, Finger!
So, it took ten years for me to realize that I had been quite blind when I received my engagement ring. And it’s ok. Because that’s what life is all about, is finding what means the most to you and keeping that around you for as long as possible.
Now, Medawars of Portage, Michigan took very good care of me. Since my husband had purchased the ring from them. And even though it has been damn near ten years since the purchase. They fixed the missing diamond, polished, buffed and added Rhodium to the ring to make it stay white gold. The best part is they did it all for FREE! Thank you Medawars, when I am ready to upgrade I will be going back to you!
Nate and I will be upgrading my ring in the next couple of years. We have decided to keep this ring, that I wear now the way it was when I received it, and to pass on to our kids.
Thank you so much for taking the time to read this blog!
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